Between caregiving, working, cooking, taking care of the house, and general life issues, it often seems overwhelming to cancer caregivers to find the time and energy to participate in the holidays, never-the-less host a holiday events!
Here are some ideas for meals that will help you have a wonderful, memorable, stress-free holiday:
1. Ask for help
People most often want to help, but don't always know how. Ask friends and family to help with the cooking....go with a potluck and ask people to bring something that they do well. Ask folks to bring a variety of side dishes. This way you'll cover a wide range of tastes. Be specific on what you need...ie "enough pumpkin pie and ice cream for 8 people". It's less stress for everyone, and it makes for a fun and memorable meal that all will enjoy and talk about. (And don't be shy about asking for help cleaning up either!)
2. Order out
If you're shy about asking for help, consider ordering out or having a meal delivered. Grocery stores and local restaurants often have reasonable ready-to-serve options, and the cost is well worth the time and energy you'll save.
3. Build on a foundation
Don't worry about taking the semi-homemade route. I often start with a store-bought gravy or salad dressing, and enhance it with my own spices and blends. Remember, the key is not to get overwhelmed. This route still allows you to be creative and personalize if that's rewarding for you.
4. Make a new tradition
There's no hard and fast rule about only eating turkey! Don't get stuck in tradition if it causes stress. One of our best Thanksgivings ever was eating homemade pizza in a boat....enjoying the nice weather and each other. That Thanksgiving made memories we talk about years later....because of the food and the experience!
5. Start ahead of time
No matter what route you take, advance preparation is a must. When I write down and figure out the logistics ahead of time, I'm a lot less frazzled before and after a big event!
When it comes to decorating, use what's available. Use backyard plants or seasonal flowers and seasonal vegetables to decorate the table, and for use throughout the house. It doesn't have to be complicated! While I respect Martha Stewart's creativity....it often seems overwhelming to me. But she's a good place to look to for creative ideas!
However you arrange your holiday meals....run with it, enjoy it, and remember what the holidays are really all about....spending time with friends and family and creating joyous memories.
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